The modern world, it is something...

Yesterday morning I got a text from my brother: "Gonna have a baby sometime TODAY!!"

I'll be honest, it caught me off guard. I had to go back and find the post where I first mentioned finding out that my sister-in-law was pregnant to see that it was indeed about nine months ago. Wow.

Later in the day, I got another text with some... medical details regarding the mother's preparedness, followed by "almost time 2 push."

About 90 minutes later, at 9:50pm Eastern time, I got a third text with a picture of my new niece attached.

I find myself strangely excited by the prospect of being an uncle. I have always felt that I'd be too scatterbrained to give fatherhood the attention it required without quitting my job and doing only that, which is unlikely to be feasible, not to mention having to give up most other parts of my life to accommodate the role (though I have seen some, like Mr and Mrs [livejournal.com profile] cptscience who succeed admirably at avoiding that, and others, like [livejournal.com profile] heiligekuh and [livejournal.com profile] jodisays, who seem to thoroughly enjoy not avoiding it).

Really, I think I am excited about being an uncle for the same reason I enjoyed working at the day care center (fun fact, for those who don't know: not only did I once work at a day care, I worked at the day care I went to as a kid, alongside some of the same hippies who helped raise me. 'Twas an experience, but I digress). I loved getting to play with the kids, teach them, make them smile... and then send them home at the end of the day. So maybe I'm excited about being an uncle because it's a way to have my child-rearing cake and eat it too. No substitute for parenthood, I know, but the right amount for me right now. Whatever else, I will say this: unless my brother lays down the law, this kid is in for a spoilin'. ;)

And so, without further ado, may I introduce Ms Lucille Mae ("Lucy Mae") Smith the zomgteeny to her adoring public.



/me begins counting the days until she's old enough for me to show her My Neighbor Totoro, so she can meet the other Mae. :)
[livejournal.com profile] x_bluerose_x recently posted an article on her blog about women in science fiction, and while I am glad to know as many counter-examples to as many stereotypes as I do, it got me thinking about my mom in particular. I posted a reply there that I'm moved to include here as well, since I like the way it came out.

This post makes me really appreciate my mom (well, not that I didn’t already, but…) a Master’s in immunology, two black belts, plus she’s singularly responsible for my introduction to Star Wars and Star Trek, viewings of the latter having been practically a ritual every Thursday night while TNG was on the air. And for all that, she never tried to "be a man”, or anything but who she was in the process, and she was never afraid to be Mom when her kids needed her in that capacity.

Not trying to downplay any of your points at all, despite all of the above I know I’m not free of the constant social manipulations of expectation and stereotype, but for what it’s worth, there are good role-models out there and they are making a difference, by raising boys who grew up playing with Mommy’s wooden swords, if nothing else. ;)


*sniff*


...well, ok, one explanatory comment: I'm afraid the bit about "trying to 'be a man'" might not sit quite right, so let me clarify what I mean by that. Particularly during the period when I was growing up, the "strong female" character in media tended to be a woman who acted like a stereotypical man, as if that's all of what it means to be strong. Vasquez from Aliens comes to mind (...then again, it occurs to me that one might say the most obvious counter-example to what I'm describing is Ripley, but bear with me). My mom was not (well, is not-- but this is largely about childhood recollection) like that. She cries openly, is patient and gentle, and could kick my ass with one hand tied behind her back. I think that's pretty awesome.

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